Sorry I’m Late, I Didn’t Want to Come: One Introvert’s Year of Saying Yes
Author Jessica Pan
Publisher Andrews McMeel Publishing | 2019
nonfiction | memoir
What would happen if a shy introvert lived like a gregarious extrovert for one year? If she knowingly and willingly put herself in perilous social situations that she’d normally avoid at all costs? Writer Jessica Pan intends to find out.
With the help of various extrovert mentors, Jessica sets up a series of personal challenges (talk to strangers, perform stand-up comedy, host a dinner party, travel alone, make friends on the road, and much, much worse) to explore whether living like an extrovert can teach her lessons that might improve the quality of her life. Chronicling the author’s hilarious and painful year of misadventures, this book explores what happens when one introvert fights her natural tendencies, takes the plunge, and tries (and sometimes fails) to be a little bit braver. (from Goodreads)
This review is spoiler-freeeee! 🙂
I don’t even remember how I came across this book, I just remember the title was funny and I thought the cover was fun. I don’t read much nonfiction (I tend to stick strictly to celebrity memoirs) but I ended up really enjoying this one! I am a DEFINITE shintrovert (shy-introvert; thank you for this new vocabulary, Jessica) and there were so many hilarious and relatable lines that had me cackling. This has fairly short, organized chapters so it was a great book to pick up whenever I had a spare moment at work.
“Skipping events is one of my top five hobbies, ranking just below videos of dogs jumping into piles of leaves. “
This book takes extroverting to an extreme, and though you will never see me repeating most of the things the author tried, it was fun to read about her experiences and live vicariously a bit. I’m too much of an introvert to even attempt to pretend-extrovert. I’d rather die than get up on a stage and perform stand-up comedy of any kind to any number of people. “Improv” is one of my least favorite words in the human language. So not everything was completely relatable, but still super funny!
“My go-to move at these events is to grab a drink and then sit in the farthest, dimmest corner I can find…before transforming back into a bat and disappearing into the night.”
There were some smaller things that I could more closely relate to- I was introduced to Bumble BFF and Hey Vida! and made accounts on both apps the next day. I prefer Bumble and I’m gonna stick around on there to try and meet some new friends! I also would totally look into more solo-travel adventures. I went to NYC on my own a few months ago, but I’ve been wanting to travel more and I enjoyed exploring independently (I definitely wouldn’t be able to go into a surprise travel trip itinerary-less AND alone, but baby steps). This was really great though and I’m happy I read it!